Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Old times good friends

In the last couple of days, I picked up my phone and made 2 calls to old times good friends. One to Malaysia and another to Singapore. It's always, always nice to hear the voices of good old friends. We chatted about everything, caught up with things in our life. So much to talk about as the last time we really spoke was 6 months ago. It reminded me how we used to hog on the phone for hours when we were in high school, and back then the phone bill were calculated by the minute. Countless hours, gossiping about 'who like who', LOL! All those hours of conversation, have helped to form a strong bond among us. Somehow as we grew older, we don't do that anymore. We spend less time on the phone, slowly, less time meeting up and now we probably chat to each other on MSN a few times a month, maybe a phone call every 6 months and a yearly meet up, if all goes well. Since when we become so anti-social? 

I remember when I was younger, I thought about why my parents haven't got many friends that they hang out with. I remembered telling them that all my time is filled meeting up and talking to friends. I loved hanging out with my friends and I will not stop doing it. I'm kinda biting my own tongue now. Now I understand why it was the case. It wasn't because my parents were non-friendly people or they're weird, it was because as you grow older, you have more things to juggle and less time for yourself, not to mention time for your friends. Everything becomes priority driven and often you'll find that the time available to spend with friends are lower on the list. Not that friends are any less important but when you have to compare with every other thing, you'll find things like cleaning, laundry, resting, groceries shopping 'surprisingly' top the list! (As if it's a surprise) And as soon as you have kids, the left over time you originally have for yourself is reduced further, possibly to nil. Correct me if I'm wrong, as we get older, we got so much more responsibilities that it's no longer as easy as dialing the number and sit there for hours. Nothing is straight forward or clear cut. It's no longer a case of black or white. 

Why have things become less obvious and more complicated? I don't want to be anti-social, I want to spend time with my friends, I love catching up, I love to gossip again, I love to know about everything about everyone, only if I can find more time, only if there is more than 24 hours a day, more than 7 days a week. 


Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Monday night

Yet again, it has been a while since I last blogged. Do people still blog these days? I found that the people who used to blog no longer blog anymore. Has blogging been replaced by Facebook? I have to admit that I'm a more active Facebook user than my own blog. I don't necessary think Facebook is the best application out there at the moment, but undeniably the easiest to poke into what all my friends have been up to lately. I just love the fact that I can just look at the photos they uploaded and find out what they've been doing. Invasion of privacy? I don't think so. It's volunteery and public!

One of my goals this year is to blog more about what I learn at work, i.e. geeky stuffs. But I find myself tired after work and end up doing other things than sitting in front of the computer typing. This is one of the rare nights where I wondered what have happened to my blog. For a moment, I can't even remember my own blog address. I guess I should have been more hardworking. I do spend the morning, while I'm the train,  thinking a lot about what I did the day before, perhaps that's a better time to blog. I think it'll be useful for me to look back and see my learnings in the future. Just like now, reading back old blogs brings back a lot of memories.

I should do that!! Some encouragement please... LOL!! 

Tuesday, November 06, 2007

OMG, it has been 349 days since I last blogged

Can you believe it? It has been almost a year (349 days in exact) since I last blogged on this page, I almost forgot that I own this page. Not until recently Jinn Ling mentioned that she's starting her blog, that reminded me, hang on a minute, I used to have a blog too! I wonder what has happened to it since then. I started typing what I remember about my blog's url on Firefox. After a few attempts on url and googling my name, I still haven't found my blog. Finally I remember what it was called and found myself on someone else's blog. I can't help but start to believe that someone else has just hijacked and overtaken my page without my knowledge. Still haven't given up yet, I googled my friend's blog which I know used to have a link to my blog. I found Quang's blog and saw my name is still there, and I clicked. Yes, it's still there! A sense of relief, I felt.

Looking back my old blogs, they reminded me so much about what happened last year. I'm not sure whether any of my friends still read my blog, I feel bad I haven't been updating my blog and keeping my friends update about my life. Sorry people, my bad! It's just that so much had happened and ...well, I'm sure you know most of my life in the last 12 months already by now, through our catch up every now and then.

To sum up, my life since last Nov till now, I have visited a few European countries with mybest friends (Zach and Kelvin). Namely London, Edinburge, Glasgow, Prague, Vienna, Florence, Venice, Rome and Paris. I have done my very first snowboarding in Queenstown New Zealand in August (and it was aweeesoommmeee), I have a new guy and a new girl in my life (no kidding), I'm still playings lots of badminton and golf, and still working at Thoughtworks. And recently 2 weeks ago, I officially committed myself to a home mortgage!

Can't believe that 2007 is coming to the end soon. In the next few weeks, gotta reflect on what happened and review what I've achieved against the goals that I've set for myself beginning of this year. On top of my head, I think I've done most of the them on my list and some not carried out too well, especially in losing weight and keeping in touch with friends and families. On the other hand, I feel lucky to have found both my guy and little girl this year. Can't tell you enough how much I'm in love with both of them.

I'm looking forward to going home during Xmas to visit my parents! Looking foward to eating mamak food, ice-kacang, wonton mee, charsiu fan etc etc...oh making my hungry now.


My little girl - Pepper

Sunday, November 19, 2006

Question for you...

Got up really early this morning, don't know why I can't sleep anymore. Question to all my friends out there: Why do you like/dislike me as a friend?

I mean, there must be a reason to still wanna hang out/talk with me, right? And if you think otherwise, why?

I just wanna know, so start by being frank! :) And I promise no hard feelings will be taken.

Now now, don't walk away from this site...

Saturday, November 18, 2006

Bright and sunny saturday

Had a really nice and eventful saturday, surrounded by friends. Feels like it has been a long time since I ever felt this way. Slept in this morning, woke up and went driving range with Jinn Ling. I think this is the longest 50 balls that I ever hit, coz we ended up spending 1.5 hours at the range, chatting more than hitting balls. Then, we went to St Kilda for lunch coz the place we wanted to go to at Balaclava was too packed, there was a waiting list of half an hour!! Oh well, better luck next time I hope. Also had gelati and we went to the beach side, did some people watching. LOL, checking out everyone, not just boys. I'm at the beach side again! Starting to like the fact that I'm in Melbourne and I can go to the beach side as often as I want without worrying about getting sweaty and the melting feeling. Was indeed a wonderful day out there...so relaxing!




Then after, also met up with Lia and Mark for Koko Black late in the arvo. So much chatting, gossiping today. The city is crowded with kids, people, and Xmas preparation. 5 weeks to Xmas, not that it means much to me but it's always nice to see the streets alive than not. This year's Xmas will be somewhat different, spending it with my best friends in Sydney. It's always nice hanging out with friends. Thought I'll be alone for dinner tonight coz I didn't have any plans, which I don't mind really, had been a long day. Was glad to receive a phone call from Shen to pull me out for dinner. We chatted a lot about our work stuffs, was a good venting session, definitely. I'm glad that I have an old friend in my work place, always someone to count on, seek advise from and someone that I can let out to :)

Weather does play a part in everyday's mood, doesn't it? Was so cloudy the last few days and my mood was too, but today, the sun was out and I just felt much better! Something funny that I notice too, that when times are hard and down, the weather tends to be the same too, just like the entire last week was gloomy and windy, cold..but now that everything has got better and happier, the sun is out again! :) Is there some correlation between my heart feelings with the weather? Something to investigate and observe...maybe you can tell me why.

Thursday, November 16, 2006

Journey

Hmm...今天写blog的灵感很多。

When you fall and get hurt, don't sit and cry. Stand up and walk forward again, have your chin's up coz tomorrow's a better day!

爱到底是什么?

爱到底是什么?父爱,母爱,友爱,博爱,恋爱...不同的爱。爱有它一定的定义吗?

爱情是一种感觉,出发于心里的感觉。爱情可以理智的吗?爱情有公平的吗?爱情有说是不自私的吗?如果有人可以把爱情model成一个方程式,那我觉得他either成为世界上最富有的人,或是最愚蠢的人。因为我觉得爱情是没有一个固定的方程式。如果两个人相爱,而因为四周的人的反意不能在一起,是一件很可惜得事。当然,幸福的爱就希望得到四周的人的认同。Hmm...好像有点自我矛盾!爱情到底是两个人的事,还是不够的呢?还是要得到其他人的批同?

今天我觉得我有长了一智。我终于明白,领悟到,爱一个人,不一定要拥有他,霸占他,而是希望他过的好,过的幸福,过的快乐。我对我看爱情的perspective, 有点意外。从来没有想到我会有这样的领悟,想法。这几天里发生的事情,我从中得益不少。虽然是个很难忘的经验,很伤痛,可是我感觉到我有长大了。就当作是我生命中的一个小插曲。我没有后悔,没有责怪任何人,只因我知道,it's all part of life and experience, and life is a big learning process. 我对我的潇洒感到新奇。世界每一天在转动,马路上每一天都有车人来来往往,生活一样要走下去。不开心是一天,开心又是一天,何不开开心心的过每一天呢?

Life goes on... :-)

To all my friends out there

Came across this song when I woke up this morning. I would like to share it with all my friends out there. No matter where you are or what you are doing, remember that you've got a friend in me.

朋友,就是有难同当,有福同享! 别不好意思啦! :-)

You've got a friend - Carole King

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=df0X2jI4bVM&mode=related&search=

Wednesday, November 08, 2006

My Fav songs for this week....

Paolo Nutini - Last Request
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qGyErt9JvKI

Stacie Orrico - I'm Not Missing You
http://tkokweng.imeem.com/music/2owdwE2r/im_not_missing_you/

Anyone has any nice songs to recommend to me?